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Our story started, well … we swiped right.

I don’t think Max and I would have ever thought we’d met the love of our lives on a dating app. We were both at a point where nothing serious was on the horizon and we were riding the dating wave of New York city. Tinder was the only thing brief in the relationship; we had a few exchanges and met for the first time around Halloween in 2016.

We had the typical chit chat for a few minutes, but then, we got on travel experiences (this is still a hot topic). Maxine goes on, talking about her many amazing trips, and casually drops that she’s heading to Morocco, Ghana, Kenya, Tanzania and Australia for the Christmas / New Year Holidays. My first thought was: she’s adventurous. Then she asked me if I’d join. My second thought was: she might be crazy. Her recollection of that conversation is wildly different, but I’ll blame the Halloween party she was coming from.

Nevertheless, a few weeks later I had booked all my flights. We had a match 😎

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Of all the Gin joints, in all the towns, in all the world? She walks into mine. –Humphrey Bogart

The Trip

Here we were, heading for a world tour across Africa and Australia after 2 months of dating. It was a risky endeavor, but extremely exciting. We both had our fears about traveling with somebody that we were just getting to know. We kept telling each other, this is the best way to get to know somebody, and if things were to turn sour, there would still be a way to have a great time. Maxine had planned that whole trip by herself (I suspect it was almost a pilgrimage). I don’t think she had planned to have that French Canadian dude tagging along, though.

I think that the trip to Ghana had a special meaning for Maxine. She definitely looks Ghanian, but it was also about going back to her roots, discover the people, and visit Cape Coast (one of the major slave trade post in West Africa). We only stayed 10 days and regretted not staying longer. Her main motivation was to go volunteering in an orphanage (which turned out to be many orphanages). We helped raise funds, brought some goods for the kids and spent time with them on-site. We both realized how HUGE the challenge is to have a significant impact. The needs are infinite, and the resources are limited. It was definitely a sobering and positive experience.

What we discovered in Kasoa blew our minds. The people are so amazing, the food is great and the kids just melted our hearts. Our host Franklin was generous of his time, and we ended up having the time of our lives (yes, even if we had to take bucket showers). I don’t think it would be far fetched to say that we would like to go back and spend more time with the people there.

I would encourage you to go read her blog, as she documented the whole experience in Ghana.

Then we traveled to Zanzibar through Kenya. Zanzibar was magical, so different from Ghana! You could feel the Arabic influence from the neighboring countries. By that time we were accustomed to travel together. I think it was one of the first time where we had activities planned separately. I went scuba diving and Max went on a spice tour which she absolutely loved.

I remember we both realized that our stay made us feel like we were on our honeymoon. It felt like we had grew together much faster within 2 weeks than we would have back home.

After all this fun, it was time to go on the long haul across the Indian ocean to Sydney, Australia to meet with Anna, Mary and Marcus. Obviously Max had planned everything. 2 bike tours! New Year’s eve fireworks! Party boat cruise! visit all the cool spots! all of that between discovering Sydney and Melbourne. For me it was going back home a little bit, having lived 1-2 years over there while working at Animal Logic.

Australia was good for the most part. We also got a pretty stark reminder that some white people, like in the states, are racist assholes. I realize it made me feel extremely uneasy as you witness a redneck telling your girlfriend to go back to Africa (alright alright, we just had come from Africa, but you get the point).

This trip had been rich in emotions, and Australia didn’t disappoint.

On our last night we were walking on the beach, reminiscing about our experiences and looking at the ocean, imagining what the future would be like. At that moment we came to realize that we had left the U.S. dating, and came back as a couple. It could have gone awry, but it didn’t. We had found each other, and it was the most amazing thing.

The Engagement

Traveling together does not guarantee you are set for life. Coming back is always challenging, and life must go on. We’re both busy professionals working in Manhattan, and on top of that Max has a bike tour company called I Bike Harlem.

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Our weeks are usually filled, especially in the summer. Nevertheless, we have spent every single day together (minus exceptions). I cannot recall one day where I felt it was too much, where I needed time. Obviously we all need time for ourselves, but we always end up spending our free time together. Max had become my lover and my best friend. As time passed, it became clearer that If you liked it, then you should have put a ring on it. 

So I did.

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What’s next?

1 year after living together, we were engaged.  And now we’re almost married. It’s crazy to see what has happened in the last year alone. It’s even crazier to think about what’s coming for us in 2018. Babies are already a familiar topic and new adventures are brewing in our minds. I look at how I have evolved has a person and how we grew together, and I’m beyond excited about building a family with Max because I know it’ll be incredible, and I know we’ll succeed.

Love always finds a way.

 

15 comments on “2017: The Beginnings of US

  1. Ous says:

    That is amazing, I’m really proud and happy for both of you its super hard in New-York to meet someone who can take the risk for that….. long life to your beautiful couple stay strong

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  2. Merci mon ami 😊😊😊 🙏🏽

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  3. Tash aka Shardé says:

    OMG! This just warms my heart ❤️! You are exactly right, Love definitely always finds a way! You two are a match made in Heaven and I wish you all the love and blessings to come! May your future together be filled with lots of love, laughs, and adventure (I’m sure it will be)! I love you both, and can’t wait until you make it official! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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  4. Tasshhiiiii!!! Thank you so much cousin-in-law! 😄 We’ll see you very soon 😘

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  5. Mary James says:

    This is an amazing fairytale story, but it’s real… I wish you guys, Much Joy,Love, & Happiness…Many Blessings to come.🎆💕😇

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  6. Dorothy says:

    In tears of joy I am so please to read your verison of your story with Max. This gives me much comfort to know that Love is Still…… sooooo happy to have you in the family. Félicitations Xavier et Maxine

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    1. Awww, merci maman Dorothy 🙂 Thank you so much 😊

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  7. Seba says:

    Such a lovely story! I’m very happy for you! I hope to some day meet Max!
    Wishing you a lovely holiday season and lots of joy in 2018!

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    1. It would be great to see you in Montreal, thank you so much!!! Same to you ❤️ 🙂

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  8. Alcina says:

    We just celebrated 57 years of marriage. I am sure you and Max will do even better. It was nice to have made your acquaintance Xavier.

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    1. Oh my god, 57 years?! I didn’t know .. congrats! Thank you for the wishes, it’s really appreciated. It was really nice being your guest, hope all it well in Saint-Lucia 🇱🇨 🙂

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  9. Britt says:

    Love you both!!!!! xoxoxoxo My favorite swirl couple 🙂

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  10. My favorite swirl couple! Love you both and so happy for your forever to begin!

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  11. TEMEKO AKPAMGBO says:

    WELCOME TO THE FAMILY
    I LOVE~ LOVE
    MY COUSIN DESERVES ALL THE HAPPINESS IN THE WORLD AND THE SMILE YOU PUT ON HER FACE..THE GLOW IN HER SKIN….AND THE LAUGHTER THAT YOU SHARE CARRY ON.
    I PRAY SHE MAKES YOU EQUALLY AS HAPPY!
    LIVE ~ LOVE ~ CREATE BABIES MEMORIES AND MORE LOVE!

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